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Founder of The Identity Engineering Collective • Master Certified Facilitator • Creator of The Open Heart Blueprint, Anabell Ingleton is a leading expert in identity engineering, subconscious reprogramming, and self-concept transformation for ambitious women who want extraordinary love, success, and emotional freedom.
Through her signature frameworks and private client work, Anabell helps women dismantle the subconscious identities that keep them over-functioning in love, doubting themselves in leadership, and settling for far less than they desire. Her approach blends memory reconsolidation, attachment patterning, quality installation, and deep subconscious identity work, creating results that are permanent, precise, and profoundly life-changing.
Her clients are smart, successful women who have done the therapy, read the books, built the careers, and “know better” intellectually. Yet in relationships and moments that matter most, they collapse into the old identities they thought they had outgrown. Anabell helps them finally shift from performing, pleasing, overthinking, or earning love into a grounded, receptive identity that attracts emotionally available men, healthy relationships, and a life aligned with their highest standards.
Her work isn’t about tips, tricks, or temporary mindset hacks. It is about reconstructing the internal architecture of a woman’s identity so that confidence, worthiness, emotional safety, visibility, and love become her automatic state. This is the transformation behind Total Love Confidence and the backbone of The Open Heart Blueprint, The Winner Method, and her advanced 1:1 identity work.
On this podcast, Anabell brings you inside the world of identity engineering. You’ll hear real client stories, hidden patterns that shape attraction and connection, and high-caliber insights that show you why you repeat certain relationship dynamics and how to finally break them. Every episode is designed to help you see yourself clearly, choose differently, and embody the woman you know you were always meant to be.
If you’re a woman who has mastered everything except your own self-concept… you’re in the right place.
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Don’t Play Hard to Get. Be Challenging to Have.
In this episode, we’re diving into the popular “black cat” theories that teach women to manipulate, lie, and play games to seem unattainable – and why these tactics don’t work with secure masculine men. Instead, I’ll show you what actually works: becoming a woman who challenges a man to have her through self-respect, high standards, and emotional connection.
We’ll break down why operating from fear and control puts you in a defensive and offensive position, making a man see you as a competitor rather than a partner. I’ll explain how a secure man needs to pursue, be challenged, and lead to fall in love – and how this process transforms him into the best version of himself.
If you’ve been feeling stuck in the dating world or frustrated by tactics that backfire, this episode will shift your perspective and give you the tools to create real, lasting connection with the right man.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
- Why “playing hard to get” doesn’t work with a secure masculine man.
- The difference between being hard to get and being challenging to have – and why it matters.
- How fear and manipulation create a dynamic of competition, not connection.
- The key things a man needs to fall in love: pursuing, giving, leading, and being challenged.
- How high standards inspire a man to rise to meet you.
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